to my family?" He said: "No, for Allāh does not love lying." He said: "O Messenger of Allāh, should I seek to reconcile her and make her feel good?" He said: "There is no blame on you." This was reported from ʿAṭāʾ ibn Yasār as mursal, and it was included under "The ḥadīths of Umm Kulthūm bint ʿUqbah ibn Abī Muʿayṭ ﵂." I do not know if her name was omitted from the isnād, or if the copyist or the narration with al-Ḥumaydī is mursal in this way. The isnād is authentic up to ʿAṭāʾ ibn Yasār, and it has been reported in a connected form through another route from her. It was recorded by Muslim (8/28) and Aḥmad (6/403, 404) through the route of Ibn Shihāb from Ḥumayd ibn ʿAbd al-Raḥmān ibn ʿAwf from his mother Umm Kulthūm bint ʿUqbah who said: "I did not hear the Messenger of Allāh (ṣallá Allāhu ʿalayhi wa-sallam) permit lying in anything except three: a man who says something intending reconciliation, a man who speaks during war, and a man who talks to his wife, and a woman who talks to her husband." There is a corroborating report from the ḥadīth of Asmāʾ bint Yazīd similar to it. It was recorded by al-Tirmidhī (1/352) and Aḥmad (6/454, 459, 460) through the route of Shahr ibn Ḥawshab from her. Al-Tirmidhī said: "It is a ḥasan ḥadīth." And regarding the statement "and a man talks to his wife..." Qāḍī ʿIyāḍ said: "It is possible that it refers to what each of them tells the other about their affection and happiness, even if it is a lie, because it promotes reconciliation and the continuation of affection." I say: It is not among the permissible lies to promise her something he does not intend to fulfill, or to tell her that he bought a certain item for her at a higher price than it actually was to please her, because this might be revealed to her and cause her to distrust her husband, which leads to corruption, not reconciliation.